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Home » Nursing Homes » How to Dispose of “Stuff”

How to Dispose of “Stuff”

April 14, 2021 by Larry Parman, Estate Planning Attorney, Author, Speaker

by Steve Hartnett

Clients are often most concerned about how to dispose of their tangible personal property, i.e., their “stuff.” Often even wealthy clients are most concerned with the things around them rather than their financial accounts. What’s the best way to handle the “stuff”?

Dispose 150x150At first glance, this may not make much sense because the items may not be of great financial value. But clients may have developed great emotional attachment to these items. In fact, there is a psychology of stuff and the attachment people have to their stuff. (In the extreme, it manifests as hoarding.) Here’s an article about the psychology of stuff. Here’s a humorous, irreverent take on stuff by comedian George Carlin.

Perhaps it’s the baseball card collection which he started when he was six years old. Perhaps it’s the stamp collection her father started when he was a boy. Perhaps it’s the coin collection she started when she was little when her grandmother gave her a silver dollar for Christmas. Perhaps it’s the drawings she did while recovering from a stroke. Some of these items might have financial value while others might have only emotional value.

What’s the best way to dispose of this stuff? Clients could give the items away during their lifetime. That has many advantages, including the client watching the joy on the recipient’s face when receiving it. But often the client won’t want to part with the items during life.

If the client wants to wait until death, sometimes the client wants to include a specific bequest for each item in their will or trust (if assigned to the trust). But there are several reasons that’s not the best solution for the client (or the attorney). First, the client might change their mind from time to time. While they may want to give the stamp collection to Johnny today, next year they may decide to give the stamp collection to Becky who reveals herself a philatelist. If the stamp collection had been given as a specific bequest in the estate plan, the documents would need to be revised by visiting the attorney again. Next, the client might decide to make bequests of additional items that they didn’t have before or which they hadn’t thought to bequeath when they signed their estate planning documents.

For the foregoing reasons and the ease of drafting, it’s far better to handle these sorts of specific bequests through a reference to a tangible personal property list or memorandum. Such a list or memorandum is a valid way to bequeath property in the vast majority of states. The estate planning document would reference the list. The client would then list the items on a list, indicating a description of the items and to whom the client is bequeathing the items. The client would sign and date the list. The list would not need to be notarized to be valid.

If the client changed their mind, they could simply change the list. If they thought of an additional bequest, again, they could simply add it to the list. Each time they made a change, they would sign and date the list.

The use of the tangible personal property list or memorandum has many benefits, including its simplicity. Perhaps most of all, this method gives the client a sense of more direct control over their personal property and the items which might have the greatest emotional value to them.

Stephen C. Hartnett, J.D., LL.M.
Director of Education
American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys, Inc.
9444 Balboa Avenue, Suite 300
San Diego, California 92123
Phone: (858) 453-2128
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Larry Parman, Estate Planning Attorney, Author, Speaker
Larry Parman, Estate Planning Attorney, Author, Speaker
Founder and Owner at Parman & Easterday
Larry Parman's dad died at 56 in a farm accident with no estate plan. His family spent two years fighting the IRS and nearly three years in probate. That experience became Larry's life work.

Since founding Parman & Easterday in 1985, Larry has led over 1,000 free, community-service education programs and helped more than 10,000 Oklahoma families go from putting off their estate plan to getting it done. His goal for every client is the same: to become the person their family calls "the one who took care of everything."

Larry is the author of three books: The Straight Shooter's Guide to Estate Planning; Estate Planning Basics; and Guiding Those Left Behind in Oklahoma. He served as Oklahoma's Secretary of State and Secretary of Commerce, and his firm is the only member of the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys in the state.
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